Heather Ceron and Cleo Gwaltney – a legacy of love

Welcome Heather Ceron as we discuss the legacy of Cleo Gwaltney – grandmother, aunt, inspiration.  Cleo could make you feel like the most important person in her world.  Discover her secret and live a life of love!

2nd episode – Jennifer Carroll

Jennifer continues to spread her legacy of live large and live long.  Enjoy listening to the transition of living her legacy following Phil’s passing.

And read her book and pass it on- both the book and the podcast.  So much to  learn from her and her family’s journey!  Phil would be so proud of them.

Here is her website to learn more:  http://jenniferlcarroll.com/

Here is her book – available for purchase on amazon and audible – and other sources as well.  http://jenniferlcarroll.com/books/

If live large, live long and Beyond Invincible resonate with you – connect with Jennifer.  She can chat with you – or speak to your group about this message.  It certainly comes from the heart!  Thank you Jennifer for sharing your story with “I’ve got skin in the game”  – you certainly do!

 

Welcome Jennifer Carroll truly Beyond Invincible!

Welcome Jennifer Carroll.   As a journalist, she is a fantastic storyteller and she has many stories to tell! This is part one of a two part podcast.   I met Jennifer in Geneva shortly after her husband passed away from  prostate cancer.  We had the common thread of approaching cancer with positive mindset and actions.  Her sharing of the journey with her family on YouTube in a series called Following Phil was inspirational to me and I have deep gratitude that she and her family shared their journey so others could observe, learn, and appreciate what the family and Phil were experiencing.  Since then Jennifer has written books, encouraged proactive health care testing for men, traveled the world with friends and family, and continued on her quest to honor the beyond invincible legacy she created with her husband Phil.  Learn how habits developed in life, such as be positive, the chuck-it-bucket and the one thing helped sustain her as she lived a normal family life, into the world of cancer and illness and through the valley of grief and healing.  Jennifer’s new book Beyond Invincible is on kindle and hard copies available in mid October.  This link will take you to ordering her book.  Here is Jennifer’s website where you can find all of her messages and the multiple ways to communicate with her via social media and email.

Here is a poem Jennifer shared with me that she wrote shortly after Phil’s death.  I appreciate Jennifer’s strength in sharing her journey and the honesty of this poem.

Alone and Afraid

by Jennifer  Carroll

 

My life was not my own

Together we were one

I was caught in your orbit

Revolving around you

Craving your sun

 

It was my safe place

My sanctuary

My trench in the war

Beside the one I love

…The man I adore

 

Now you’re gone and…

I’m alone and afraid in a world I’ve not made

Trying to find a new sun

New purpose… new passion…new beginning

And then…

I will find my fix

And rediscover Jenn again!

 

Never did I dream, at this stage of life

We would be apart

I must keep searching to find the rainbows after the rain

And healing the hurt in my heart

 

Grief is like a shipwreck

Struggling for breath as the storm tears apart the world you know

Waves cashing down pulling you into the darkness below

You hold on tight to the wreckage

With a firm grip on never letting go

 

In time, the waves come farther apart

Not as bold, not as strong, not as fast

You can see them building from afar

You can prepare for their attack

Still desperately hanging onto the broken pieces of your past

 

Then they pass…and there is calm in the storm

You find yourself drifting, surviving, dreaming once again

Of the sun and the life that was

Not now…but back then.

 

I find strength in the memory of you holding my hand

Dancing and laughing and walking in the sand

Watching the hummingbirds

Marveling at their glory

Now, they’ve come to symbolize our story

They float free of time

Represent love and hope

 

I never want to truly let you go

Like a scar left behind from the shipwreck

A reminder to keep sailing

With all hands on deck

 

I will keep breathing, moving on and searching for the sun

There’s a flicker of light in my future

With one life over…a new one has begun.

I will always love you and miss you on this new journey of life

For the greatest blessing God gave me was you!

I loved being your lover, your friend, and your wife!

Jennifer has again inspired me.  As I approach the end of my treatment in early October, I can begin to imagine the multiple small steps back to wellness.  I look forward to posts from October forward talking about regaining physical strength and feeling back to myself.  Kind of reminds me of pregnancy – it takes nine months to have a baby – and takes time to recover.  I look forward to the recovery.

Being the oldest child – listen to Evelyn’s perspective on helping.

Evelyn, as a teenager, and the oldest sibling, has a perspective of caretaking of her siblings and those around her that is unique to both her age at my original diagnosis (11)  and her birth order.  Now at 25 and living far away,  she remembers the onion analogy and how helping sometimes is asking questions and listening.

Taking care of yourself first – when you are used to taking care of others

Listen to a discussion with my friend and psychiatrist, Dr Julie Guthrie, about learning to put yourself first. Physicians with their background of being altruistic can get hung up on taking care of others. This is true for many other people as well. Listen as Dr. Guthrie and I discuss how to recognize when you need to put yourself first and how this can be of benefit to all of those around you.

Update at the half way line and Pelotonia

One goal – end cancer!  Well it’s Pelotonia week and I can say – last year was a blast and wishing all the riders this year the best.  I will be back next year.  I am a virtual rider this year if you care to donate to my ride: www.pelotonia.org/GratefulForEveryDay

My podcast this week talks about my own journey with chemotherapy, being allergic to chemo, port placement and other items I needed some education on this time around.  The physician, nurses, and pharmacists who take care of you  are also there to answer your questions.  Feel empowered to ASK!  Enjoy the podcast.  I am past the half way line – just have heartbreak hill to get up!  (Pelotonia riders into Gambier know what I mean!)

Dan Lionello and his journey with prostate cancer and Jennifer Carroll’s book on being Beyond Invincible

 

Through Entrepreneur’s Organization  I have been able to meet some amazing entrepreneurs and members of their family from around the world.  Today, I am with the Canadians!.   Dan Lionello shares his journey with prostate cancer.  He has two business ventures that I know of – one is Painted Picture  -a way of moving your life in the direction you want it to go – by visualizing it.    And using that visual to keep you moving towards your goals.  The second is an Omnae.com  – a global sourcing, supply chain and quality management platform.  You can meet Dan on LinkedIn to read more about this.  On top of these initiatives, he had prostate cancer.  So – that means, yes he had the exam and then was given the diagnosis.  Like so many others of us – he researches and reads on google what the journey may be – on top of using his doctors insights.  With all of this information combined, he knew he wanted to approach this process with  his own painted picture outcome and used neurolinguistic programming skills to help him stay positive and focused on the outcome he wanted for himself.  Dan will take you on his journey to a return to health – which was four years in the making.

In the mean time this week, a friend, Jennifer Carroll,  published a book with her and her family’s walk through life.  They even learned to live while Phil was dying.  Beyond Invicible is the book.  This is a proactive health message book – please make your doctors appointments and get checked..  Phil’shad aggressive prostate cancer and his family lived their journey through this illness in the most positive light – and Phil is the most positive person I have ever met posthumously!  Jennifer Carroll and her family embody that spirit as their legacy.  Her book will fill you with gratitude and positivity.  You can pre order her book to learn how to be positive, carry gratitude rocks and be grateful for all of life’s adventures.

Finally, a promotion for my favorite fundraiser for our local cancer hospital.  The Pelotonia is in 9 days.  Here is a link to my virtual ride this year.  The research and patient advantages that have occurred in The James as a result of this fundraising effort in the last 9 years has been amazing to experience and appreciate.  My podcast with Lisa Hinson addressed this.  Here is a link to my fundraiser if you are so inclined.

Meet my cousin Charlie and his son Scott – prepare to chose happiness!

As you may remember – I am lucky enough to be from a large family.  We are scattered around the globe at this point – yet find ways to connect.  My cousin Charlie recently lost his son Scott to brain cancer.  Scott was an educator and coach..   I thank Charlie for sharing this most personal story and hope that Scott’s message sticks close to your heart.  It does mine.  Charlie recalls the range of emotions he went through when his adult son was diagnosed with brain cancer. He learned a lot about the man Scott had become and the effect he had on his students. Scott’s mantra to his students had always been “Be good humans,” and embraced “Choose happiness” during his time battling cancer.  We are never too old to learn.  Feel free to subscribe on your favorite podcast site, share, rate, and comment.  If you find this content valuable, doing these activities helps others find it too!

Helping a friend with the loss of a child – now and through life

There are very few days that someone can call the worst of their life – and losing a child is one of those days.  Meet my friend, Eileen Caramela, who lived this day – weeks, months and years.   Derek accidentally drowned and Eileen used the strength of friends and their caring to help her through.  As this is now 13 years since this event happened  – Eileen will help you through what to say, what hurts or doesn’t make sense to say, and what is helpful as the years go by and you have memories of her son.  I appreciate Eileen taking the time to talk about the death of Derek and using this moment to help others – Thank you Eileen!

Podcast – Bonus – Update on how I am doing and chemo hacks!

Well, the truth is – it has been a bit rough.  The medication I have been taking to control the nausea is just not agreeing with me. I either am sleeping non stop and completely out of it, or I can’t sleep, or if I am awake I can’t think straight.  So I guess it is a no go on that nausea medicine – olanzapine.  I’d rather not be a zombie.  The xray is my foot.  As usual, I had great plans that I would be healed at 4 weeks (I swear this is what I heard the orthopedist say at my first visit).  This is my foot yesterday – it is healing – but not healed.  The great news is the weather is hot and I can swim.  And, I can walk short distances.

I had the opportunity to talk to some other patients going through chemotherapy and realized there are a few resources I want to share.

What really works to keep you from loosing your hair:   cold therapy.  Polar cold caps is one company.  Some chemotherapy infusion sites have a cap that circulates cold and does not rely on dry ice.  Here is Mayo Clinic’s explanation and schematic on how this works.  OK  – so let me just say – cold can be magic for reducing hair loss – and for reducing fat!  Follow the link to Timeless Skin Solutions if you want to know more about that!

The National Cancer Institute has a comprehensive site for all cancers if you want information about any cancer.  Up to date is a great way to find out the latest on any therapy for any disease – including the latest on nutrition and other treatments outside of medications that have scientific basis for working.  This would include supplements that I am taking to lessen the possible side effect of neuropathy – a painful sensation in my feet.  This does require a subscription – but is worth the money for the sheer volume of what is available.  The Cancer Support Community is also helpful for both patients and caregivers.  Twitter is also becoming a place where influencers in the medical community are posting the latest research before it is even published.

Finally, if you want a thoroughly researched, connected and recommendations for your serious medical illness – Private Health is a company that for a fee (substantial) will gather all of your information on your illness, review all the literature and science and latest in genetics on your issue – and make recommendations.  I have not done this – but if my situation was more dire, I would access this resource.

Here is my podcast on how I am doing – enjoy!